Should I temporarily relocate 70 miles from home to find a good job?
February 15, 2012 10:43 AM Subscribe
I have a house and a husband I'd like to keep. However, it seems like the only way to do this is to temporarily relocate myself 70 miles away where the job market is better. Is this a good idea?
posted by Val_E_Yum to work & money (27 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
Me: 30-something female, sans degree, using my sockpuppet account
Mr. Yum: 40-something male with chronic pain (3+ years)
We've been married almost 12 years and are self-employed.
Location: Southern California
Due to my husband's health issues, he hasn't been able to work as much as he used to. Our tiny rural community's job market isn't that great. I have a very casual housekeeping gig for a friend, but it's not going to turn into something full-time.
My Dad's my landlord, and has been VERY understanding about my husband's illness. However, we owe oodles of back rent. Dad doesn't like to nag me about it, but I know Dad could use the money back.
As Mr. Yum and my Dad have been taking care of me for pretty much my whole life, I'd like to do what I can personally to become the main breadwinner in this family. I'd also like to keep this house, as Mr. Yum and I love it up here. Besides, moving isn't a realistic option for many reasons.
It seems that the majority of jobs available right now are around Downtown LA, which would be the Commute From Hell for me (.75 hr drive to train station, 1.75 hr train ride, ~.5 hr subway or bus ride each way, five days a week). My car is old and probably won't handle that kind of commute too well (doubly so driving into LA daily), and I have no money for major repairs.
However, a dear friend of mine has a spare room that he'd let me use, rent-free. He's a mile from a Metrolink station, a couple miles from a light rail station, and lives in the area where most of my family does. Commuting to Downtown LA from his place would take an hour or less each way. I've found a temp agency or two that seems to list most of the jobs available in that area, and I'll most likely sign up with one or both of them if I do this.
When I've brought this idea to Mr. Yum, he says, "What about us?"
I've told him I feel I owe it to him and our marriage to try this. It will be hard adjusting to me being gone a lot, but thanks to technology, we'll be able to keep in touch. Plus, when Mr. Yum is well enough to work, he prefers me out of the house anyway. We could also use health insurance, as that seems to be what will get doctors to treat him properly (long story not relevant to this post).
So, is this a good idea? Am I being short-sighted by thinking the only way to keep my house is to move away from it temporarily?