Wake or funeral?
February 13, 2012 5:51 PM Subscribe
Do you go to the wake or the funeral?
posted by Sissinghurst to Society & Culture (38 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
Where I come from (Northeast/Mid-Atlantic US), family and close friends go to the funeral but the wake is the wider venue where acquaintances and co-workers of the family attend to offer their respects. My spouse comes from a community in the Midwest and she says that there, the opposite holds true. What do you think is appropriate when information about both are given in the "arrangements?" One, the other, or some specific alternative like the funeral but not the interment? Perhaps it depends on whether one shares the religious affiliation of the decedent's family? I am not a believer but prefer to err on the side of respect/etiquette.