Bringing a baby to a wake?
January 19, 2012 4:23 PM Subscribe
Is it appropriate to bring my 3-month old to a wake?
posted by kosmonaut to human relations (26 answers total)
The father of my childhood best friend passed away (age 59, cancer) and the wake/calling is tomorrow. I was very close to the family for my entire childhood (though we haven't been as close for about 5-10 years, but we still keep in contact).
I am considering bringing my wife (and therefore 3-month-old child) along. I think they would be glad that we all made it out there (it's about 2.5 hours away), and I think it could bring them a few smiles to meet my son, but I don't want to be inconsiderate to them. If the situation were reversed, I think I would welcome my friend's child at such an event, but I don't really know as I don't have personal experience with it.
Our child is generally very well-behaved — doesn't cry very often or for long periods of time — although if he started to fuss then one of us would rush him out of the room.
(Other possibly relevant facts: this is in the northeast US, a not particularly religious christian family, we have no nearby family to leave our baby with, the baby will be fine with the travel, and my wife does know the family reasonably well.)
Is this a good idea or would it be better if I went solo?