Sibling career choices and ethics
January 26, 2012 5:52 PM Subscribe
Ideas for how to handle it when a sibling you are very close to is heading into a line of work that symbolizes everything you are against in this world?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (60 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
A sibling I am very close to is foraying into advertising. The sibling is brilliant, and they seem to be very quickly moving up in this field and rubbing elbows with hotshots and mega-corporations even though they are still in college. I don't want to turn this into a referendum on advertising (substitute any other field you would be deeply against and the question remains the same), but I would like have practical ideas on how I can best deal with this.
The complication is that this is a sibling I am EXTREMELY close to. If it were any of my other siblings, I would have no need to ask this question, but since this sibling is someone I am very close to, it has become more difficult. We have always been 100% open and honest with eachother, but now I find myself speaking only in polite canned responses when they talk about what they are doing.
What I am looking for is
1)Practical ways to respond to them when they tell me about their latest things they are doing with this. Right now, I am saying stuff like "oh that sounds interesting" or "that sounds neat". It feels weird and artificial. But maybe that is the best thing to do?
2)Once I did say something like "Well I at least hope you would never work for anybody truly evil." They agreed and said "Oh no I never would! I would only work for companies like *insert names of companies that I consider evil*
At that point I realized it was probably a lost cause because obviously we had way too different an idea on what the word evil actually meant. I said nothing else. Should I have handled this differently?
3)Just any other ideas for dealing with this in the best way possible.