Being supportive at home and from a distance
January 13, 2012 6:03 AM Subscribe
My sweet boyfriend's dearest friend has been diagnosed with Hodgikn's Lymphoma. Last time we saw him he was complaining about a lump in this throat, and saying they didn't know what it was but not to worry, he was probably just getting over an infection. Typical blase doctors, oh yeah forgot to mention, he is five years into a ten year prison sentence for some youthful foolishness.
posted by stormygrey to health & fitness (11 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
My boyfriend was pretty much devastated ,not after the conviction, but at the sentencing with the mandatory bid. Now after his friend persisted and they ran some tests leading to the diagnosis, he is terrified that after finally reaching the halfway mark, his friend may suffer terribly and ultimatly die behind bars.
My questions are, have you or someone close to you suffered through this kind of lymphoma? What should we expect?
Have you had a loved one in jail or been sick in jail? Is there a way we can help make sure he is getting decent care?
He has been transferred from a facility in Panama City to one with medical facilities in Orlando. We don't have his new contact info yet. We try to write one every week or so and go see him about 3 times a year, but we don't really know yet what visiting priviledges are going to be like at this facility.
How can we support him through mail? (We can send approximately five pages a letter, no maps or anything that appears to be instructions on anything that may possibly be used in a criminal activity. We can also send new, unwrapped books via Amazon)
Of course, I'm struggling also to support my bf, its a hard thing to process and deal with from this distance. I have met his friend after I got on the visitor's list, but I have not known him outside this context.