Finding things to do with myself on evenings and weekends
January 10, 2012 8:16 PM Subscribe
What are some things I can do during evenings and weekends?
posted by allseeingabstract to sports, hobbies, & recreation (24 answers total) 31 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a 30 year old guy in the Chicago area. I work a standard 9-5 and I've found that I have absolutely nothing to do on weeknights or weekends. I end up just surfing the web and then going to bed. I don't have a significant other and I live in an apartment that doesn't allow pets unfortunately. I also live in a pretty bad neighborhood so I can't really just walk around, which is something I like to do.
I guess what I need is a hobby. But it has to be something that doesn't require much money or a car. I know there are lots of questions similar to this and I've scoured them for answers but I haven't come up with much that appeals to me. I haven't yet found a hobby I've enjoyed just to do it; I think I'm very goal-based so hobbies without a point or outcome don't really appeal to me. I also get hung up on how the hobby might or might not make me money someday as I dislike what I do for a living and am trying to find some other activity that I could enjoy and make money from. Maybe I need to get out of this mindset to feel satisfied, but I don't know how.
I've tried guitar, writing, and drawing. I don't have a "knack" for any of them and I find myself frustrated with my progress, even after months & years of practice. It's just not fun for me. I'm also a bit of a loner so social activities don't really appeal to me either. I've gone to things through meetup.com and find it to be awkward...I have trouble relating to people sometimes and hanging out with people doesn't really fulfill me in the way that I feel I need to be fulfilled.
I know some people might jump to 'depression' as the root of this. I don't know. I think I feel this way simply because I don't have anything I can really focus my energy on. It's easy to feel low when you don't have something you can take pride in, you know?
Any ideas for activities that meet my admittedly restrictive criteria? Please don't recommend knitting or anything involving computers. I'm on the computer enough as it is. Thanks guys.