Books, forums, ??, for adult children of abusive parents who have (undiagnosed) cognitive and emotional issues?
January 1, 2012 4:32 PM Subscribe
What are some informative self-help books and other resources (preferably online or UK-based) for adults dealing with abusive parents who have undiagnosed cognitive deficits and are emotionally stunted?
posted by anonymous to human relations (2 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
I've been gaslighted
by my parents for as long as I can remember. The kicker is that it's not intentionally malicious behaviour. They are good people who mean well, but they have learnt some seriously toxic scripts and they are emotionally stunted with limited social skills.
I've been trying to find resources geared toward adult children of parents who are emotionally abusive, but who also have the types of cognitive and emotional issues that might hinder their (the parents') ability to comprehend, recognise or deal with the patterns. I've done the whole co-dependency book route, the Al-Anon route, lots of talk therapy but I've never quite found the right resources and I'm seriously lacking time and money these days for therapy sessions.
It'd be really helpful to learn about how other people have dealt with similar situations, what works, what doesn't, and how to cope. Or even just that other people experience this.