Does 'Miranda and Steve' really ever work?
December 27, 2011 5:42 PM Subscribe
Hey Succesful-ish Career Ladies! Have you ever dated a man who is much less successful/ambitious/well-remunerated or otherwise is in a much lower tax bracket than you? Can you tell me how you made it successful, or why it never will be?
posted by Kololo to human relations (51 answers total) 37 users marked this as a favorite
I'm in my early thirties, have a fairly successful career in marketing/advertising, own my own home, earn a low six-figure income. My boyfriend of three months is intelligent and kind and romantic and trustworthy (as far as i can tell.) He also earns about one quarter my salary as a waiter paid an hourly wage without tips, has never held any job for more than a year, and has skills (ie. he's great with his hands, doing renovation work, etc) that he hasn't ever tried to turn into a career. (He occasionally assists a contractor, but somehow can't see ever training for a trade himself.)
Can this relationship work? Even if he's comfortable with earning much less than me (and if i can reconcile the idea of earning much more), are there other gaps that are just too hard to bridge or ignore? While the relationship is really too new to get into this conversation ourselves (and frankly, i'm afraid to), i'm very curious if anecdotal evidence indicates that the lifestyle issues (cabs vs buses! cheap sushi joint vs stylish japanese restaurant!), life planning (expecting a comfortable retirement and planning for it, vs. not), money management habits (paycheck-to-paycheck budgeting vs an investing/saving/spending balance) are just too hard to overcome?
(Right now i'm in that honeymoon phase of believing it can all be overcome, but part of my brain is asking these questions, and i'm curious what the anecdata says!)