How do I stop sleep-groping?
December 7, 2011 7:33 AM Subscribe
I have multiple sleep problems, but in the past year they've become somewhat "molest-y" in nature. I'm looking to hear from anyone who has been treated for sexsomnia or related sleep disorders to find out what can be done.
posted by Monkeyswithguns to health & fitness (15 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I've always had sleep problems, either lack of, or various problems occur while sleeping, such as bruxism, flailing wildly, kicking, and particularly frequent, talking in my sleep, sometimes to the point of having detailed conversations with myself.
For the past year or more, my wife has occasionally complained of me groping her while we sleep in various ways.
The first time it happened, she was very angry, and thought I'd done it on purpose and was denying it, but since then she's talked to me while it's happening, and didn't mention it later after we awoke, and realized I have no memory of it whatsoever, and that it's entirely subconscious and so now she mostly just laughs it off and jokes about it the next day after asking if I was awake for it. Despite her taking it in good humor, it really freaks me out that I'm doing all this.
She says she asks if I'm awake when I do it, and last night, I apparently said "Yeah, yeah, I'm awake." although I have no memory of this whatsoever. I still have a hard time believing it, even wondering if she's dreaming this herself, so we're putting a video recorder on tonight to see if we can catch anything.
Since it began, she's had a few techniques, some of which are successful, at least part of the time, such as putting a pillow between us, or waking me up by elbowing me/shaking me. She says last night though I just pulled the pillow up and threw it at the top of the bed, so this isn't always effective.
Several years ago, I did a sleep study overnight, because I always felt tired, and never felt like I was getting a good sleep, but according to the technicians, I slept soundly and normally and they didn't detect anything wrong.
Is there anyone here who has been treated for this or similar parasomnias who can give me some insight on what to expect should I see a doctor/sleep clinic about it? Am I looking at another expensive sleep study?
What kind of treatment did they provide, or what were some tips you may have learned?