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October 27, 2011 3:05 PM Subscribe
Suggestions for non-partisan charities that I can tell my siblings to donate to in lieu of a a Christmas present and advice on telling them I'll be doing the same for their presents?
posted by otherwordlyglow to Human Relations (36 answers total)
We're all in our 40s, some married with kids, some not and we all live in different cities in the United States. It's unlikely that any of my siblings will be together for Christmas this year.
Usually what happens is that one of us (not always me) suggests that gift exchanging is unnecessary among us and the others protest and then we all exchange by mail or in person anyway. It's kind of a hassle, I usually get gifts that I don't want, and I'm not ever sure what to get my siblings either. This year, the madness must end.
So rather than suggest no gifts, I'm planning on suggesting that my siblings donate to a charity in my name AND I'm going to tell them that I plan on doing the same for them. Giving to a charity is good in two ways, I think. First of all, I like to support organizations I believe in, and beyond that, I'm hoping to avoid the conversation of "you're just a cheapskate" which has been the contention in previous attempts.
One potential roadblock is that one of my siblings is rather conservative and the rest of us are not and I don't want to be asked to donate to the NRA nor do I think my conservative sibling would be comfortable being asked to donate to Planned Parenthood. So, first of all, I need suggestions for charities that I can offer as options to all siblings without making them feel like they are compromising their values.
And second, I'd like some help in crafting my message to them telling them this is my intention.
(And I'm planning on suggesting that nieces and nephews will still get gifts.I'm not a total scrooge).