Can anyone provide resources for learning to be in a healthy long-term relationship?
It's been two months since I came out of a three year relationship and I realized a lot of it was unhealthy. I came out of this one with a lot of my core beliefs tossed around. I realized I'm more sexist than I thought I was. I can be emotionally manipulative. I realized that the relationships I see my family have are not as healthy as they could be.
It seems like people figure out what they want in a relationship by piecing together some messy amalgam of what they see from family, friends, and media (books, movies, etc). This can be good and bad, depending on what they seed that pool with.
So I remember flipping through a copy of the Five Love Languages
by Chapman. I thought a lot of it was applicable and not too hokey.
So can anyone provide good books or websites that at least give the spectrum of how to proceed in a relationship? I just want to see more examples of what people consider to be healthy habits so I can add it to my existing pool of data points.
I understand that it ultimately comes down to talking to your partner and coming to an agreement about what you each expect, and I'm not looking for rigid guidelines. I know the spectrum is wide. There are polyamorous people. There are insanely jealous people that make it work. There are different levels of dependence.