Cabin Fever + Nightowl - Social Anxiety = Frustration
September 27, 2011 5:23 PM Subscribe
Ways to get out and relieve cabin fever late at night, and maybe even be somewhat social?
posted by polywomp to Human Relations (13 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
This is embarrassing for me to even ask, but I am failing to adapt to my new city, and am looking for ways to get out of the house in an alien environment. I've tried a few meetups, and have gone to a few shows, but I still know pretty much nobody in this city. My natural sleep schedule seems to have me most active late at night, after most coffee shops close. I have some kind of social anxiety around groups (about 6 or less and I am totally fine, more than that and I am not very talkative, and in a full room I am a wallflower). I am probably an introvert. For this reason, I am more of a coffee shop person than a bar person. I mean, a laid back bar is fine if I know a few people already. I have been known to read books at bars or play video games, since I am not one to initiate conversations with strangers.
Aside from bars, I can't think of anything else to do at night. Most of the local music here is the far outside what I like, from what I can tell. I don't have a lot of income, so I can't go see movies and go to restaurants constantly, even though that does get me outside and relives some of my cabin fever. I planned on just jumping in once I got here and meeting a bunch of people, but I severely underestimated how difficult it is to do this in a new city with no social network to build on. Ooops.
I don't necessarily expect to talk to people random people, but I just can't stand to sit at home all the time.
I even looked for a D&D group (even though I only played a few times), but I haven't had much luck yet. Also, living in the suburbs is not helping because I am rarely up for a "spur of the moment" 30+ minute drive. I like plans.
So, ideas on how to get out and enjoy an amazing new city that has thus far been totally overwhelming and isolating (ok, that's my fault...)? Thanks!