Need support cutting down on pot and booze withou giving them up altogether.
August 24, 2011 1:57 PM Subscribe
I'd like to halt my unhealthy (for me) pot and alcohol habit without completely swearing off either substance. Is this do-able? Are there books or Portland, Ore., groups that can help me with this? How can I stick with this plan when all of the people I'm closest too are daily users of one substance or the other?
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness (12 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
For the past 10 years, until about a month ago, I've either smoked a bowl, had 1-3 alcoholic beverages, or smoked a little and drunk a little just about every day. I've given up pot for weeks at a time when job hunting and successfully passed drug tests, but drank more in the interim. I gave up drinking for six months for health reasons a few years ago, but smoked more in the interim. Having experienced physical withdrawal when I gave up coffee, I'm confident that I'm not physically hooked on these substances, but psychologically and emotionally is a different matter.
About a month ago I ran out of pot and couldn't get more for two weeks. I decided to restrain my drinking, and despite the intense longing for a buzz I felt the healthiest and most alert I have in years. I decided I wanted to feel like this more often. Then my dealer called back, my best friend came over, and we got very stoned.
My best friend responded to our dry spell by deciding that she never wanted to go so long without pot again. My brother, to whom I am also close, is also a daily smoker. And my husband, who is bigger than me with a slower metabolism, continues to drink 2-3 beers or glasses of wine each day, and to enthusiastically encourage me to join in.
I don't want to give up pot or booze altogether, but I'd like to limit myself to moderate Friday and Saturday social use, with occasional weeknight pot the 5-6 times a year I get bad headaches.
Here's what's mostly working for me so far: I bought a box with a combination lock that all my drugs and paraphernalia now live in. The lock seems to be enough of a barrier to force me to think twice before smoking. I've also invested heavily in fancy bottled juices so I can still have something fun to drink while forgoing booze.
It's mostly working, but I feel emotionally alone and unsupported, and this isn't always easy. My husband thinks I'm being overly neurotic about my substance use, since I don't consume large quantities, don't feel physical withdrawal, and tend to be neurotic in general. My best friend admits that she's addicted to pot but doesn't want to stop, and I feel like she's trying to sabotage my efforts.
I'd love to find some kind of support group, or even print or online intellectual/emotional support, but AA seems to be all or nothing with substances and I don't know what else to try.
(apologies if there are wording or formatting issues -- posting on the phone to avoid being monitored by my boss, and I don't seem to be able to scroll up and down in this box)