Dealing with roommates?
August 23, 2011 6:28 PM Subscribe
How do I deal with feeling isolated in my own home? Kind of a long story.
posted by nickhb to Human Relations (20 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a college student, and I recently moved into a new house, living with four roommates, lets call them Alice, Bob, Charlie, and Eve. Alice and Bob are a couple, and tend to be the dominant opinions in the group. Bob is a serious redneck, sometimes racist, always a dick (I live in a University town, so it's slightly more liberal than the surrounding, but still very much a red state.)
The problem is that I am, for lack of a better word, different. I think, act, and approach problems differently than most people my age (early 20s). I like to discuss and debate issues, logically and reasonably, but every time there's a conflict, Bob throws a redneck hissyfit, Alice tries to calm him down, Charlie and Eve don't want to "make waves", and I'm left as the only person on my side.
-We had agreed on room selection months before, and 24 hours before the move Alice calls me and says "Our room is too small, we're trading." and acted like I was crazy for even thinking this wasn't ok.
-We had a party, so I made a cleaning checklist the next day and posted it on the bulletin board. It was straightforward, not passive aggressive, but they said I was treating them like "babies" and acting "like I was their father".
Today I had to empty the dryer because someone left their towels in it and I needed to use it, and I was afraid to put a note on the bag of towels for fear of offending someone.
I feel like it's four against one, and I don't want to feel this bad the whole year. Am I overreacting? What do you guys think?