Are you supposed to feed a babysitter?
August 5, 2011 8:41 AM Subscribe
What's appropriate for me to do in terms of providing food for the person who provides occasional date-night childcare for my eight-month-old son?
posted by handful of rain to Human Relations (24 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
My husband and I are new-ish parents to an eight-month-old, and are finally emerging from the new-baby haze. We recently interviewed, hired and booked a babysitter so that we can have an evening out, hooray! However, I'm not sure what I should do in terms of providing for her dinner. She'll be caring for him from 4 pm until probably 9 or 10, so definitely over dinner time. In a situation like this, is it assumed that the person would bring their own food, or otherwise provide for themselves? Or would you expect food to be offered? The sitter is an adult and is making the high end of what seems to be a normal range for this type of childcare.
Many years ago I did a stint of neighborhood babysitting as a middle-schooler, but it was for older kids so I needed to make fixing a meal for all of us part of the evening (often ordering a pizza - as instructed by the parents). Our son is nursing and on limited solids, so his feeding is definitely separate from the sitter's. I'm very comfortable with the phrase "Help yourself to anything in the fridge!", but we don't have many packaged/convenience foods, and I'm not certain that preparing something extensive from scratch would work for her (or, to be honest, something I'd want her doing in my kitchen on the first time we have her over).
I was thinking about picking up a small frozen pizza and making sure we have some canned soup in the cabinet. Does that seem about right? I'm assuming she could also order in food if she wants, and we are an easy stroller walk to a Safeway and a good Mexican takeout place (although the baby tends to go down early, after which she'll obviously need to be in the house for the duration).
I'm basically trying to find a balance between not thinking about this at all (which was apparently my husband's plan) and way way way overthinking this and making it awkward.