How can masturbation possibly be this difficult?
August 4, 2011 8:45 AM Subscribe
[female masturbation filter] I think I am perfectly healthy, so why can't I bring myself off?
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness (21 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I am a female who has never managed an orgasm. For the most part I don't feel a lot of sexual interest/attraction, and as far as I'm concerned that's one less complication in my life.
The problem is that on occasion, maybe a couple times a year, I'll wake up aroused and have no way to deal with it. The theory is simple enough, and I'm pretty sure I understand what's going on with my anatomy. I think the problem is that I can't seem to get wet enough, so rubbing is generally kind of painful.
I've tried it in a bathtub without much more success. I guess the next step is to invest in some astroglide and a magic bullet, but at this point my feelings about masturbation in general are pretty negative. After repeated nights of frustration and embarrassment, the last thing I want is to initiate a state of arousal unnecessarily. What if I can't bring myself back down again?
One more complication: I'm dating at the moment, and he's confused as to why I'll happily do him, but balk at him trying to return the favor. My instinct is that if I can't manage my own body parts, it won't be any easier for him.
Does anyone have any advice, either for reaching completion or for making arousal go away? Should sex really be this difficult to figure out?