An unwanted letter
July 27, 2011 7:00 PM Subscribe
Should I read my friend's suicide letter?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (27 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
A good friend of mine killed himself earlier last week. I've known for about a week. Of course it's been devastating especially because no one knew he was depressed. I'm very, very sad about it but I'm soldiering on, going to work and seeing my friends, though I have been thinking about it almost constantly.
A mutual friend has a copy of his letter and offered to send it to me to read and I'm wondering if I should.
I see the pros: it might give me some closure and may alleviate the guilt I've been feeling (ie. I should've called more, I should've paid better attention.) On the other hand, it could open up wounds if I read my friend's words which are possibly very hopeless.
I will probably ask my friend who read the letter already how he feels. But I just wanted to put this out there, if anyone else has been in this situation. I'm leaning more towards reading it. I appreciate any advice or thoughts, especially if you have experience with this kind of sad situation. Thanks.