So long old life! How to I really put it all behind me?
July 14, 2011 9:53 AM Subscribe
What suggestions do you have for helping me put the past in a box and filing it away?
posted by littleflowers to human relations (12 answers total) 34 users marked this as a favorite
I'm trying to put a lot of crappy events of my life in my past. I have a really hard time letting go of my memories and hurts and letting the past stay there.
Today is a new day! Move forward!
Right. It's easier said than done.
What ideas do you have for getting over things? A career path that hasn't turned out as you hoped, marriages that haven't lasted, unrequited loves, feelings of failure, a birth family who isn't supportive...stuff like that. I know it takes work, but I'm not sure what will start the gears turning.
I'm trying, with a therapist, to learn that my past doesn't need to define me. Sure I'm the product of it, but I can change the future, theoretically. I don't know how to go about that in any practical way either, other than simply implementing sweeping changes, and that seems incredibly daunting.
My (not 50th yet) birthday is in a couple weeks. I always see this as my new year, and the time to make resolutions (that get mostly broken two weeks later).
I want a new start. I want to go forward, and put many things squarely in my past. I also keep thinking there might be some sort of ceremony that would be meaningful, but I'm not sure about what it might look like.
Thanks in advance for your help!