My suicidal friend
June 27, 2011 12:51 PM Subscribe
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about my suicidal friend.
posted by sucky_poppet to Human Relations (27 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I ended up suggesting to my friend that he return to his meds just as an experiment, to see if they made things seem better.
He did so about a week ago, and has since been in a happier mood. However, he said he feels inauthentic because he doesn't get upset over things that should upset him. The things he has mentioned are very trivial and would not upset a stable person.
He also told me that he had a long talk with his mom to "prepare" her for his death. Today he was talking about his mental state, and doing a lot of beanplating about it.
This convo took place over IM, and I told him I wanted to hang out and talk in person.
There are so many things I'd like to say to him but I know him well enough to predict how he'd respond. I need help figuring out how best to talk to him about this without alienating him.
Examples: "You mean so much to me, your family, and your friends" would probably result in him accusing me of a guilt trip.
"You have so much to contribute to the world" would probably be met with scorn about how the world doesn't deserve it and/or he can't help anyway.
My friend is bipolar, and has extremely individualistic beliefs about the nature of reality and the afterlife that underlie his suicidal ideation. He cannot be swayed from this. He's incredibly intelligent and justifies his belief system with that fact.
Everything I can think of to say to him will sound like a platitude. He respects me because I listen to him and I engage him in philosophical discussions about reality.
I don't feel I'd be a true friend if I didn't try to help. I'm just not sure how.