I'm Not Racist, but... I think my friend is.
June 2, 2011 6:43 PM Subscribe
Help me figure out how to deal with a racist anti-Semetic casual acquaintance who I pretty much have to see weekly through Mah Jongg.
posted by Leezie to human relations (26 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
This is a corollary to this question
. One of the main reasons I didn't like this lady was that she would make these off the wall anti-Semetic (in front of another of our friends who is Jewish) and racist comments. For the sake of the Mah Jongg group, I decided to wait her out to see if she would get interested in some other hobby and leave the group. That worked for about six months but now she's back and still spouting racist crap. This week's gem: black people smell. I was too flabbergasted by it to say anything - I just kind of stared at her open mouthed. None of the other Mah Jongg ladies said anything.
The thing is, I think she knows that she's racist and doesn't care. She mentioned that she was in a book club in her previous city and was about to be kicked out for her comments on the book The Help.
This says to me that she doesn't really care what people think and she's happy to continue to voice her "opinions". I also don't know if giving her positive examples to counter her notions would help as most of her statements are based on what she said was her experiences growing up in south Louisiana during integration.
What should I do? Get her kicked out of Mah Jongg? Try to educate her that what she's saying is deeply offensive to a lot of people and racist? Tell her to avoid topics such as race, ethnicity and religion and stick to cracks, bams and dots?