Help me not be a nagging, obnoxious wife
May 24, 2011 9:58 AM Subscribe
How can I be less unreasonable about my husband's new life?
posted by roomthreeseventeen to human relations (52 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite
My husband recently went from being a mostly work at home guy to a full timer. Meaning 9-5 Mon-Friday, and a few late nights. It's a great job, and one he has been working towards for the good part of 30 years. The financial and extracurricular benefits are extraordinary.
And so, I feel a bit like a jerk being depressed about the whole thing. He comes home from work some nights and goes almost directly to bed. Other nights we have a quick dinner (that I spend a long time making) before he sacks out early. I'm pretty much in charge of the cat, who is freaked enough about not having her pal around all day long. I'm trying to do most of the cleaning, errands, etc. But I've definitely fallen into a funk/depression about the whole thing, and every time I mention it to DH, he freaks out and says I'm not supporting him. Much of the social time we've spent together recently is at his work events, although he does try to pay a lot of attention to me on the weekends.
This is all exacerbated by the fact that I'm currently injured and can't exercise too much, which is my main form of fighting depression. Also, DH has recently mentioned we might not get to go on a trip this summer that I've been planning for a year, because he might have to work.
And today is our 6 month wedding anniversary, and he's going out for dinner with a friend after work. (We did celebrate last weekend, but I'm still disappointed)
tl;dr - my husband has to pay a lot of attention to his new job, and I'm being a brat. How do I suck it up better and be a good soldier?