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May 13, 2011 7:52 AM Subscribe
My boyfriend might be failing out of graduate school. What can I do to help?
posted by anonymous to human relations (14 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
My boyfriend is an organic chemist at a R1 university. He is not passing his cumulative exams. They run on a point system, B is half a point, A is a whole point, and anything less is a failing grade and doesn't get any points. You need 4 points by the end of your 2nd year max to more on to candidacy, 3 for a consolation-prize M.S. He has a point and a half, and only has 3 more tries to go. He wants to continue on to the Ph.D.
He has ADD and is depressed, and went to the campus health center and was prescribed Wellbutrin for the ADD and the depression. He just started, and was previous unmedicated for the ADD, although he has had a diagnosis and took medication as a child.
Can he appeal to the board in his department for more time to take the exams since he has ADD?(I know that's somewhat dependent on the exact school, which I'm not putting here.)
Thing is, I am headed off to graduate school in a few months for my Ph.D(in an unrelated field). I'm worried about what that might do to our relationship since I'll be pursuing something that he may have failed at doing, and I don't want him to be resentful.
I am moving in with him in a week for the summer. This issue will become more and more prevalent as time passes. If he doesn't pass these next exams with flying colors, things are not going to go well if he can't get an extension(and the thing is, he is technically already on an extension because you are supposed to have passed them by May).
He wants to be a professor. He has no other real skills. He loves chemistry and I believe that he is a good chemist when it comes to lab-work, but these exams are killing him. His relationship with his prof. seems a little strained, but I think he is on his side.
What can he do? What can I do as his (soon to be live in) girlfriend? Has anyone else been through this?
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