Fighting like cats and cats
April 18, 2011 4:57 PM Subscribe
Help me introduce a new kitten to my cat.
posted by mesha steele to pets & animals (12 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I know, the question is useless without pictures, but I recently adopted a 12 week old female kitten, Lily. In addition, I have a one and a half year old male cat, Boris (both are fixed). I've tried to follow online guides for introducing a new kitten into the household (I've gotten some Feliway, I've been keeping Lily in her own separate room, and showing Boris some extra love), but I'm frustrated. How long does the process usually take? I know I'm asking prematurely, since it's only been a few days in my case, but Boris seems to really hate Lily.
How long should I keep them separated? I've allowed a few face to face meetings, and while Lily seems to want to play with Boris, he pounces on her and starts kicking. He's 10 pounds to her 2 pounds, and I'm afraid he'll tear the stitches from her spay. Should I keep them entirely behind closed doors (I have no access to baby gates that would allow them to see each other but not harm each other)? Lily cries when she's left alone in her room, but whenever I try to go in and see her, Boris tries to slink in with me for another attack.
Also, how do I tell the difference between play fighting and the real thing? Lily seems to be trying to play, but Boris will pounce on her and start biting at her neck and throat while kicking her. She'll kick back and occasionally squeak, but he doesn't make much if any noise, and doesn't relent when she does. Is any degree of fighting between unrelated cats acceptable?
Sorry for all the questions; I've never lived with more than one cat before, and the crying and fighting is stressing me out. Please tell me it will get better, and hopefully soon.