What do you do at a funeral?
March 21, 2011 9:52 PM Subscribe
Funeral Question: So my grandmother died. The wake is on Thursday and the funeral is on Friday. I've never been to a funeral before and not any Catholic services before. What's expected of me? What can do to help? Or at least not make things worse?
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We weren't close( it's a big family, I didn't see that side too much) but I've never been to a funeral before and I don't know what to expect, exactly, aside from the stuff I've seen on TV or read about. I've never been to a wake or any kind of Catholic service, and this branch of the family was very devout. Do I go to each viewing? Am I expected to bring something? What's the structure of these things?
It's a total lacuna for me and I don't want to upset or burden my aunts and uncles or my Mom, who are of course going to be under more stress then me. What can I do to make sure I'm not adding to their agita?