Incorporating the Rosary into a funeral service? Some guidance?
March 16, 2011 10:56 AM Subscribe
Calling all Roman Catholics, Nuns, and Priests! Help me incorporate the Rosary into a Funeral Service for my best friend! (kinda long)
posted by Tchad to Religion & Philosophy (14 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My best friend just died. He was 60.
He was a pre-Vatican II Roman Catholic who was heavily involved in the church as a child, almost became a priest in the later 1960s but never took orders.
I am not a Catholic. I am not a believer in any conventional sense.
As he made his way through life, regardless of the direction his spiritual journey took (and pretty much it took every direction), he always maintained a fondness and powerful respect for the Rosary as a spiritual manifestation of the Divine and as a form of powerful meditation.
Being about 13 (at the time of VCII) and very involved in the Church, he was also familiar with the older Latin prayers and Mass.
At his memorial service, I would like to incorporate this into the program, but have a few questions:
My initial idea was to take the rosary he died with and say, during the eulogy, that it was important to him and Latin as the vehicle was important. Then I would say something along the lines of the basics of what the Rosary is, then say the eight prayers in sequence in Latin (I do know them), and ask that the audience, if they are Roman Catholic to meditate on the mysteries and if they aren't they should feel free to meditate on what Greg meant to them. I did not intend to do a Rosary properly, but just enough to make it mean something.
From my research, the Rosary is meant as a personal devotional and not as a public set of prayers and shouldn't be broken up like that. To do the partial main prayers of the system without a full circle isn't what it is for and may be slightly offensive or at least misplaced. This will be a mixed group of counter-cultural folks from the 60s to prim family members to loosey-goosey United Methodists and Unitarians to any number of other believers.
I was then thinking that Latin needs to be a part of this, as does the Rosary, so perhaps I can talk about what it meant to him and then say something along the lines of: "Although it isn't appropriate for the Rosary to be said under these circumstances, the Lord's Prayer and the Our Father are important parts of all Nicene worship and I would like to recite the Our Father in Latin...etc" While holding the beads.
I guess I am looking for input. I don't want to offend anyone by mis-use of the beads, but it needs to be part of this. How can I best do it without offense?
The service itself is at a United Methodist Church, it is not a Catholic service, there is no priest involved, but there will be a number of people with whom he grew up (different varieties of American Catholics) present.
Thoughts/Opinions? I will be at the computer night and day for a while yet, so feel free to ask questions and let me know your thoughts.
I want to do this right.