How to deal with grief.
June 8, 2010 10:57 AM Subscribe
Tips on coping with grief? My dad passed away a couple of weeks ago and since then i've been pretty much paralyzed with grief. Is there anything i can do to get over this quickly, or at least get a handle on it, because it's affecting my interpersonal relationships, and interfering with quality time with my 17month old.
posted by ramix to human relations (23 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Anytime i close my eyes all i see is his smiling face and then it makes me break down - so much that i'm even afraid to go to bed. The kicker is that i was 6000 miles away when he passed and i feel so guilty that i wasnt there to make his final hours more tolerable...(he had a protracted illness and his last days were apparently very traumatic for him and everyone around him).
I also keep wavering as to whether to go for the funeral or not. As much as i would like to, even the thought of seeing him dead makes me hyperventilate! I dont know whether to preserve my last image of him as that smiling old man i saw last year, or go and be forever scarred by seeing his dead body. But then again i feel i have to go for "closure", whatever that means. It'll be an effort to travel 6000 miles with a toddler in tow and being pregnant to boot, so i really need help in deciding what to do.
I do go to church but even that is bringing no comfort.
1. Any tips/ideas on coping with grief
2. what can i do to bring back some joy into my toddlers life once more?
3. Should i go for the funeral or not?