New Separation Anxiety
March 15, 2011 7:49 AM Subscribe
Help me out with some recently erupting separation anxiety in my five year old kindergartering daughter.
posted by RajahKing to education (23 answers total)
In the last four or five weeks, my daughter has gone from a kindergartner who had her good and bad days going to school to a flat out, terrified, anxiety-ridden kiddo who does not want to go to school. At all.
At this point, she is absolutely anxiety-ridden and obsessive about school. It begins when she wakes up in the morning, and is generally part of conversation after school and on weekends. The mornings are the worst - she is crying upon waking up about not going to school. She also is very specific about when she will be picked up - she will ask over and over "mom is going to pick me up at afterschool at 4:30, right", about 50 times in a morning. I stay with her at the school up until the last possible moment (the class walking to their room) and then peel her off and hand her over to the teacher.
When asked, she says its because she misses me or her mother. She says that school is boring, but hasn't identified any particular bully.
A few other stats - she attends a public school in Brooklyn, NY. She has been going to school / day care since she was 1.5. She has been at this school for the last 1.5 school years (a Pre-K program). Her mother and I live separately, but nearby and co-parent; this has been true since she was about 2. I take her to school every day, and depending on the day, she is picked up by me or her mother. She is quite bright, can read and write, is G&T, is well-behaved in school, and popular among her peers. Her particular class is somewhat wild and her teacher is not particularly effective or dynamic.
I can not identify any changes in routine or habit that led to this, but it does seem to be getting worse. I am in the process of finding a decent child therapist, but in the meantime, any advice would be appreciated - but I am mostly looking for any basic CBT or other tools to get her to a point where going to school isn't abject torture for the both of us.
Thank you in advance.