To tell or not to tell?
February 8, 2011 9:07 AM Subscribe
I'm an Assistant Professor with an upcoming job interview at another institution in the state where my spouse lives (we are currently long distance). My question: do I tell them about my spouse, and if so, how and when?
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So besides being tired of the long-distance thing and the financial strain, there are other reasons why I'm ready to move on. The school I am interviewing at is not an obvious upward move, though, so I'm concerned that if they knew my spouse lives in that state, they might think I was not really interested in them, just the location. They can tell from my CV that I used to live in the area, but I did not say anything in my letter or in my conversations so far about my spouse's job.
It seems likely to come up in the conversations though, at least with respect to house hunting, relocation, etc, and if I do get an offer, I imagine it most certainly would come up. So I'm looking for suggestions as to how to breach this topic, because surely it would be weird, wouldn't it, if I get hired and arrive in the fall, and then say, oh yeah, my spouse has worked here for [x] years?