Can pregnancy hormones create sexual compulsion?
February 1, 2011 7:00 PM Subscribe
At what point does it go from typical pregnancy hormones to a physiological/psychological concern?
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (14 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
After years of "false starts", my wife has successfully made it out of her first trimester and is entering her 18th week of pregnancy. My concern is her libido. I understand that hormones can have all sorts of effects and a slight increase in sexual desire does sometimes occur as a result.
The problem is, it's starting to go past a healthy desire to the point of a compulsion. Last weekend, I politely declined after spending the entire morning shoveling the driveway (bad back) and she absolutely lost it on me. This has never happened. Tonight, after approximately an hour of intimacy (once before we got out of bed... should have shoveled the driveway but, whatever... and once after work) I just walked into our sitting room to find her pleasuring herself with a toy. Also, a couple nights ago, she had asked if I would be bothered if she were to start "fooling around" with one of her childhood friends (a woman) and when I said I was a bit uneasy at the idea, I was derided for being "boring and mopey."
I'm becoming less and less comfortable with this surge of sexual energy, and I don't dare bring it up with her as any interference has not gone well.
Not to mention the fact I don't feel comfortable disclosing this to any relatives or friends, as it is a personal matter, and when I casually touched upon the issue with my brother in-law (my sister's husband) he teased me for being "out of shape."
When should I be concerned, and what is the best way to confront her about this issue? Also, could this have the potential to harm the baby?