What is his motive?
January 1, 2011 12:30 PM Subscribe
Should I move on or stay???
posted by painlessheart to Human Relations (84 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I'm with this guy for 3 yrs. He told me that he doesn't want to be in the committed relationship but he is trying to get there as he claims that he always had issues with committing, he said he just can't do it right at this moment but he wants to at some point. So I waited. Its been over a year since we kinda made our relationship lighter than it was before.(we lived together before and now we live separately) The issues are : 1. He wants to take care of me as he wants to be a provider to my household even we aren't living together. So I'm letting him, not because I need that.(I think he likes the role) I want more than just him being a provider because what I want is HIM being MY MAN, not his money. 2. He doesn't want to be intimate with me as he believes "SEX" makes us too close. (No sex for almost a year so far and everone thinks thats weird) 3. He is sleeping with other girls(No confirmation but I suspect). 4. It is hard for me to just CUT HIM OFF and move on because I really really want to be with him. 5. He is heavily involved with my son. They talk and go through his school programs everyday as routine. He is like father to my son and they both feels that way. The beggest reason that I can't move on or am confused is that I feel that he is doing what he's been doing because he wants me to wait. Why he wants to take care of me, stay close with my son, going to my son's school meetings/events etc. if he doesn't want me there when he become ready in the future? or Am I reading him wrong? What do you think? If I am reading him wrong, then what's his motive/purpose of doing what he is doing????