I cheated, now what?
November 27, 2010 10:01 AM Subscribe
I cheated, the only time ever, now what do I do?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (99 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I am in a long term monogamous relationship, one of more than 15 years, which has had very few issues, ever.
Last night I went to see an ex whom I loved very much, but, things went very badly for us at the end. We hadn't spoken in many years until this summer. Earlier this week we had an extended phone conversation in which my ex admitted how badly he felt for how things had been between the two us. He also finally told me he loved me, which is the one thing I had waited to hear from him.
Tonight I went over to his home to talk and work on getting past all of this, including allowing myself to get over what might have been, and instead of putting this behind me we ended up in bed together.
I love my partner. I absolutely adore him and never expected to ever do anything like this. I have been faithful for our entire relationship until now.
We are married and have been for most of our relationship. Our marriage is strong and there has never been a doubt about it until tonight.
Even with all of this, I have still always loved the other man, as we had a very intense relationship with other complicating factors including losing a child together.
I really do love my husband and I would never want to hurt him, but, I love the other man. I know I need to never see the other man again and to find a way to get over him.
How? How do I keep this from my husband? I don't want to hurt him over one indiscretion if I can assure that it is only going to be one indiscretion.
Please help me, hive mind.