How do you know when to stop/take a break with therapy?
November 19, 2010 11:08 AM Subscribe
When do you know it's time to stop therapy or take a break?
posted by stormpooper to Human Relations (16 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I started going into therapy again at the beginning of the year. Post partum anxiety, hormonal shits, major anxiety, depression, mood issues as well as it impacting the marriage and raising a child. The next step was for me and my husband to get ourselves into marriage therapy--his insistance. And the marriage therapist said we both need individual therapy and it seems I need to be on meds. So I told her I already am in personal therapy and I would try meds. And so far they have really, really helped (despite me being reluctant at first). Both my DH and I noticed a significant difference for the better.
The final step was for him to get himself into therapy for a variety of issues and he went yesterday to his first meeting. Not sure where it's going to wind up since he's very anti-therapy for himself and he feels he's pretty good although he did say he understands him handling stress, communicating, anger issues are things he should work on. So I'm hoping for the best.
However, the last 3 sessions for myself it turned into a total venting session. The only thing my therapist says is "sit with the emotion" and it seems to be a repeated theme. She knows that my initial reason for going to therapy was to help me figure out whether or not to divoce. Well now we're in marriage therapy so that will help determine that. But when she obviously got tired of my venting sh said "well you seem to be just reflective. You need to figure out what goals you want to discuss."
And that's just it. I don't know what goals to discuss because Christ I'm going to 3 therapists? The majority of my issues have been with my DH--our arguing style, having him see his marijuana usage and outlook habit as not parent-friendly, his temper issues, his disorganization (therapist strongly feels he's ADD), and having him really, really see that I"m fed up with all of it and either it gets fixed or I'm just miserable and don't want to be in this relationship.
I'm getting tired of going to three therapists. Leaving my DH is up for grabs and I'm understanding the basics of when to leave an unhealthy relationship. The problem is there is something "wrong" where I just can't. Not sure if it's codependence, something inside of me that's missing, why I can't leave, etc.
We're working on our arguing habits together. But other than that and how to leave a bad realtionship, I have no goals.
So is it time to take a break with the personal therapy until I see how DH is progressing (or not) to go "you know, this isn't going the way I want, I"m unhappy, now teach me how to leave." It's all becoming overhwelming and well, depressing going to THREE therapists. (and expensive)