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November 17, 2010 1:29 PM   Subscribe

My wife wants me to go and find us some porn to watch together.

I'll explain the scenario a bit:

This is a bit of a big shift for her, and I fully support it. After two kids, ten years on and off the pill and years of breastfeeding, my wife seems to have finally reached some sort of hormonal equilibrium.

Sex frequency and intensity is way up, life is good, and we are branching out. Toys, role-play, lots of daytime innuendo and exhausting nights, and it's just *great*.

Anyhow, our next adventure is porn. She has described her desire to enjoy not so much a porn movie, as a movie spiked with porn, so something with a plot, dialog, reasonably believable characters as well as full-on fucking.

I'm not sure where to start looking. As a guy, I'm familiar with porn of course, but it's been more of a get-it-get-off type of scenario, so the stuff I'd watch is not going to so anything for her at this point.

So, I'd like some suggestions please!
posted by WinnipegDragon to Human Relations (35 answers total) 42 users marked this as a favorite
 
babeland has some suggestions for you. they're also a good place to research toys.
posted by nadawi at 1:34 PM on November 17, 2010 [1 favorite]


This overview is very helpful.
posted by Sidhedevil at 1:35 PM on November 17, 2010 [1 favorite]


Tipping the Velvet? I'm not sure if that quite qualifies as porn. It's definitely erotic, though. Henry and June is another one.

Maybe something not quite hardcore to start out with and see how you both feel about things?
posted by elder18 at 1:36 PM on November 17, 2010


All About Anna
posted by heatvision at 1:38 PM on November 17, 2010


If you're both okay with a violent crime thriller, Bound has some incredibly hot (lesbian) sex in it. In between the violence and tension and literal money laundering.
posted by rmd1023 at 1:39 PM on November 17, 2010


Oh, snap, nadawi! Okay, here's another good overview of where to find porn aimed specifically at women.
posted by Sidhedevil at 1:40 PM on November 17, 2010 [1 favorite]


if you find Bound up her alley, there's also gia. i would consider both of those movies very important to the development of a young nadawi.
posted by nadawi at 1:44 PM on November 17, 2010


Pirates and Pirates II both earned favor in my house. The acting is bad, but everyone involved knows this and hams it up to good effect.. There's comedy, something resembling plot, and raunchy porn. One of the things that both movies get right is that the sex scenes are exactly the right length, neither too long or too short.
posted by lekvar at 1:56 PM on November 17, 2010 [1 favorite]


Oh yeah, the Pirates movies are golden.
posted by elder18 at 1:57 PM on November 17, 2010


Also, not strictly porn, but Spartacus: Blood and Sand and True Blood have been known to raise the temperature in our house quite a bit. True Blood has more plot, but both have plenty of eye-candy
posted by lekvar at 2:00 PM on November 17, 2010 [1 favorite]


Check out "Short Bus".
posted by Captain_Science at 2:01 PM on November 17, 2010


Oh, yeah, Short Bus is awesome. It will completely change your perception of The Star-Spangled Banner.
posted by lekvar at 2:05 PM on November 17, 2010


If you want "plot, dialog, reasonably believable characters as well as full-on fucking" then I think feature movies are the type you're looking for. Here are some specific examples of recent features from some of the big adult companies. It should be easy to find trailers of these to see if they're what you're after.

Bluebird Films- Bonny & Clide, Hustler- This Ain't Avatar XXX, New Sensations- The Sex Files: A Dark XXX Parody (and part 2), Vivid- Malice in Lalaland, Digital Playground- Body Heat, Wicked- Speed
posted by mztreskiki at 2:08 PM on November 17, 2010


What roleplays do you like to do? That might be a good place to start.

Any kind of kink or common roleplay dynamic probably has someone who obsessively catalogs its appearance in mainstream movies. That might be a worthwhile avenue of exploration.

Example: I know a guy who makes huge compilations of spanking scenes from non-porn movies.

You can always memail me if you want help finding something specific, but don't want to post too much about it.
posted by the young rope-rider at 2:14 PM on November 17, 2010


nthning Short Bus

and Comstock Films. Oprah recommends it!
posted by world b free at 2:19 PM on November 17, 2010


For a Canadian source of all kinds of fun things, Come As You Are is your friend (bricks-and-mortar store is in Toronto). Here is a link to their DVD page, and they have a "Sex & Storyline" subsection. ("Big budget, big productions, big acting, and big sex. For those who like drama and a little plot with their porn.")
posted by purlgurly at 2:35 PM on November 17, 2010


Most porn shops have sections for vintage '70s porn, and many of these are surprisingly watchable. I recommend The Opening of Misty Beethoven as a starting point.
posted by coolguymichael at 2:37 PM on November 17, 2010


The unrated version of Caligula.
posted by cazoo at 2:46 PM on November 17, 2010


9 Songs also.
posted by cazoo at 2:49 PM on November 17, 2010


Seconding "Bound". VERY sexy and not crass.

A dozen years ago I showed that to my soon-to-be-husband as a not-so-subtle hint that I wanted him to tie me up. We just celebrated our 12th anniversary of "tying the knot", in all kinds of ways.

Have fun!!
posted by sandra_s at 3:10 PM on November 17, 2010


I am a huge fan of "Behind the Green Door."
posted by psylosyren at 3:29 PM on November 17, 2010


Aria (in particular the short with Brigitte Fonda in a version of Tristan and Isolde) and The Unbearable Lightness of Being have wonderful erotic sequences and are spectacular films as well.
posted by elendil71 at 3:43 PM on November 17, 2010


Every woman I've ever watched a Michael Ninn movie with has been very happy and turned on. Lots of sex, with gorgeous people, and flowing sorts of plots. Silly, like most porn, but much more than tv-repairman schlock.

I haven't seen his later works, but IMDB lists a ton. I think my favorites when I was watching more porn were Latex and Forever Night (clip).
posted by Invoke at 4:13 PM on November 17, 2010 [1 favorite]


You all are my new friends :)

I know I was a bit vague about situations and kinks but this is all *very* new to her so pretty much anything is game right now, until she develops a taste of her own.

Keep them coming!
posted by WinnipegDragon at 5:03 PM on November 17, 2010


I think Vicky Christina Barcelona is a classic chick porn. I was surprised at how quickly I jumped at my husband after we watched it. Yeah, so. Um. Vicky Christina Barcelona. Big ups for that film.
posted by msali at 5:23 PM on November 17, 2010 [1 favorite]


this is a hit or miss movie, depending on tastes - but if she's submissive, i'd put the secretary in the same vein as bound and gia. nothing explicitly hardcore, i suppose - but i would only watch that movie with someone i was planning on having sex with.
posted by nadawi at 5:41 PM on November 17, 2010 [2 favorites]


I was just about to say Secretary. Not exactly porn, but definitely functions similarly.
posted by equivocator at 6:38 PM on November 17, 2010


The Masseuse is my personal favorite, and I have two X chromosomes.

Have fun!
posted by ohyouknow at 7:44 PM on November 17, 2010


There's not that much full-on fucking, but every time I watch the movie Sirens I later on end up making any guy I may happen to be dating at the time very, very glad I did.

Ang Lee's Lust, Caution has some very graphic sex scenes (it was NC-17) and one DOOZY of a great plot.

A day or two ago someone posted a whole tribute to Maria de Medieros on the blue - it reminded me about how Henry and June did really interesting things to me.
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 7:54 PM on November 17, 2010


violet blue has some recommendations she and you might like...there's porn for women and erotic stories as well as other links of interest on her website. Happy porn hunting!
posted by phogirl at 6:14 AM on November 18, 2010


Candida Royale was making porn flicks branded as being the equivalent of romance novels--geared towards women, with plots and emotions or something. Can't vouch for it firsthand though, just remember thinking it was unusual.

I think Madison Young has done some stuff you can get at blowfish that's got vague plot or premise in a sort of goofy hipster tongue-in-cheek way.

Some people find it the anti-hot, and too thought provoking/disturbing/emotionally rousing/pretentious, but Catherine Breillat's Romance might fit (I love it, though admittedly I find it totally unerotic but I know folks who dislike the thinkiness and just put it on to drool at the hot guy).

As for veering into totally not porn but steamy, I can't remember for sure but Henry and June, Unbearable Lightness of Being, and Don't Look Now always got touted as being sexy. Dangerous Beauty maybe? Dangerous Liasions.

This is probably waaaay too off the wall, but there's also In the Realm of the Senses. To me it's one of the only movies I've ever seen where the sex is totally straightforward, not sexy or unsexy, just sort of is, and is there because sex happens to be a big part of what went down so why not show it in proportion to how major it was, but not with any other super loaded significance per se, at least while it's being presented. (I'm not articulating this well!) But the end would probably be too much for you if you're just trying to get in the mood (pretty big boner killer, no pun intended), so skip it.
posted by ifjuly at 6:35 AM on November 18, 2010


The Opening of Misty Beethoven was remade as a musical in 2004, called (iirc) "Misty Beethoven: The Musical". I haven't seen all of it yet, but I have seen clips featuring a singing penis. kinda awesome.
posted by rmd1023 at 6:55 AM on November 18, 2010


This sounds like the reason why Species II was ever released.
posted by mostlybecky at 11:21 AM on November 18, 2010


A movie spiked with porn, eh? For that you want Sex and Lucia. Trailer here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N2JBjQVJ5Qg
posted by heatherann at 5:24 AM on November 19, 2010


Mulholland Drive, if she enjoys women.
posted by Anything at 5:07 AM on November 23, 2010


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