My Parents are Talking about Divorce after 47 Years
November 15, 2010 6:33 PM Subscribe
My parents are pushing 70 and have been married for almost 50 years, and now they're talking about divorce. How can my siblings and I help?
posted by RingerChopChop to Human Relations (36 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
My parents have lived at opposite ends of their house for ages (the past 15+ years) and we all knew that they occupied different worlds, but in the past year or so it seems things in their relationship have gotten to a point of crisis. My siblings and I always assumed the years of shared experience would be enough to give them the strength to see past their differences, but this doesn't seem to be the case anymore -- the big D word keeps coming up and everyone is getting very frightened. Part of the problem seems to be my father's extreme religious fanaticism -- he insists that my mother is going to hell for not sharing his church fervor. This causes her to ignore him at home and make him feel unloved. Both are so stuck in their ways that it is nearly impossible to make them see the other person's side.
Does anyone have any suggestions or experiential wisdom on how adult children (ages 25-43) could help their aging parents keep their relationship together when things look really hopeless?