What's the difference?
October 26, 2010 8:02 PM Subscribe
NSFW - Adult Industry Related - How do I point out to my customers/potential customers a big difference between me and almost other female in my field, without coming off as bitchy or snobby?
posted by anonymous to computers & internet (16 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
Anonymous so this cant be perceived as shilling.
I'm a female that has been in the adult business for over a decade. What started as posting some scanned polaroids of me to the newsgroups in the mid- 90s evolved into my own paysite in the late 90s that has been growing and going strong ever since. I have done, and do extremely wellwith it. I have no complaints whatsoever.
I cater to a niche of a niche in the fetish world. I like a certain activity. No, I LOVE this certain activity. It's a huge part of my life. It would be even if I didnt have the enterprise catering to it. Despite many opportunities to do so, I have never hired myself out as a fetish "model" . That's for two reasons.
One, it's not part of the long-term plan I set in place all those years ago, and two, I really love what I'm into. I'm not being paid to pretend I'm into it, or being paid to pretend I'm into anything. I never wanted to be a model. My customers know that they can see everything I have ever done at my site, and they don't have to join a hundred different sites to get my content (me). They like the value. Also, one of the common compliments I get from members is that they can sense that I do really have a passion for what I do. And they are right.
I'm not an attention whore (ie. posting anonymously), and don't think I have the "too cool for the room" porno-star attitude that some in my field give off. I genuinely like to be helpful to others in this biz and because of how I do my thing, I don't consider anyone "competition". I'm not competing with other girls for modeling/performing gigs, so I am not competition for them. And since no other producer has videos/photos of me, I'm not competition for them, either. Also, even though there are other female performers on my site, the main thrust of my site is me, so I don't feel I compete with the other producers in my field who need a constant flow of different girls.
I have been very helpful and generous to many other adult sites and producers over the years.
I have built a large link structure and fan base being true to what I like. That's not going to change.
However, it seems as of late, let's say the last 2 years or so, the fetish community in the adult industry has gotten rather competition-oriented. It seems most models and producers need to suck all the oxygen out of a room. They need to be the most EXTREME. They are all over new female members of the fetish community to get them in front of a camera. And with the economy being what it is, a lot of girls are doing a lot of things they normally wouldn't do to make a quick dollar. I'm not judging them. People have to do what they have to do to get by.
What I'm trying to figure out is how to, in a marketing/identity/slogan sense, differentiate myself from the scores of females in the adult industry out there that aren't actually into what they are doing and at the same time, not come off as bitchy or snobby? I'm not into everything. You cant pay me to do something I wouldn't do otherwise. That's a proven fact.
"I really like -ACTIVITY-, not like all those other fakers. " Doesn't quite have the effect I'm looking for.