Rememberance of Things Past
October 18, 2010 4:40 PM Subscribe
What do you wish you asked / discussed with your parents whilst you still had time?
posted by anonymous to human relations (37 answers total) 111 users marked this as a favorite
I am becoming increasinly aware of my own and my parents mortality and see this as a natural consequence to becoming a father and my parents declining health. My parents are seperated and live in completley different geographical locations to me and as such I see them maybe once for a few weeks every few years. My father sometimes morbidly jokes that he might last long enough to see me again. Whilst I have a semblance of my family history my parents have never really said too much about their own lives. I don't think there is a big secret or anything but I get the feeling they don't consider their own lives to be interesting enough to discuss. Whenever I have asked questions I have always got a response of 'its better to look to the future than to replay the past' which I understand to an extent. I understand why the past is painful as the seperation occured 5 years ago and I guess talking of the past reminds them both of what they had.
Given the declining health of both of my parents and the geographical (and to some extent emotional) chasm that exists - I am haunted by the idea that they will pass away and there will be this big hole of questions that I will never be able to have answered. For those who understand where I am coming from on this - what do you wish you had asked / said / done before it was too late?