How to best use a period of solitude to heal
October 4, 2010 11:33 AM Subscribe
I'm hurting after a breakup, and am lucky enough to be leaving tomorrow for just over two weeks on Salt Spring Island. For about half that time, I will be alone and mostly isolated. How can I best use this period of solitude to reflect, refresh and heal myself?
posted by yellowbinder to human relations (20 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
My first relationship ended about 2 months ago. We got engaged on our 5th anniversary early this year, but it's turned out it was not to be. The breakup was hard, but we both knew it had to happen and I think we did a good job with it. I accept the end of it, at least intellectually, and I am excited for the freedom, the opportunities it will bring, and the chance to focus on myself and my own needs. Emotionally however I'm still raw and bleeding.
My parents live out on Salt Spring, and I've happily been able to work it out with them and my employer to get out there for just over two weeks starting tomorrow. The last week of this my parents will be gone, so I will be alone in their place. It's beautiful, although people live around you can see nothing man-made, just trees and water and the lights of Vancouver way off. Very peaceful.
I'm introverted, so have always drawn strength from being alone, but have never been isolated for this long. How can I best use this time to re-center myself, and start to become okay with being on my own for an indeterminate span of the future?
Specific factors: I don't drive and the place is isolated, so barring the occasional ride into town from a neighbour, I am truly alone and pretty much confined to the house and some surrounding woodsy areas. I have no experience with meditation but see this as a good chance to start. My mother has lots of art supplies, so creating may be an option, although little experience there as well. Will have all the modern technical wonders, laptop, internet, movies, etc., but don't just want to spend a week online, I could do that at home.