Weight and Dating.
September 3, 2010 10:02 AM Subscribe
30 y/o female - Lost a lot of weight then gained it back but am still in healthy range and in decent shape. Fine. Whatever. So how do I feel better about myself and how do I feel more confident when dating?
posted by floweredfish to human relations (45 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I went through a ridiculous break-up where I managed to get down from 165 pounds on my 5'8" medium frame (am female) to 115 pounds. Now that everything has blown over, I'm back up to 150 pounds. Sure, I'd love to get down around 130ish, but I'm also really athletic and know that it's pretty tough for me to do that.
I'm a marathon runner and most recently, a triathlete, so it's damn near impossible for me to just simply lose weight without sacrificing muscle. Eating better is one thing, but again, I'm running 60+ miles a week, so food is pretty important to me, and adding more exercise probably isn't going to work at this point. I guess I'm just trying to be realistic.
Long story short, I'm back up to 150 pounds and am now a size 8-10 again (where I was a 2-4 before). How do I stop feeling like such a fatass? I just feel *big*. Sure I'm strong, but I just feel like a giant, ugly, unattractive woman and am feeling very self-conscious about how men perceive me now...especially since I'm in the whole dating field where everyone seems to be hyper-critical. I just feel so utterly self-conscious and like they're all silently judging me when I want to feel sexy and like a total catch.