Can I still be a friend? Maybe a different kind of friend?
August 4, 2010 5:09 PM Subscribe
Help me deal with transitioning from peer to authority figure.
posted by bookmammal to human relations (7 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
For the past three years I've been working in an office setting within a group of six people plus our boss. All of us came in on the ground floor as equals when our dept was formed, and our positions require that we all work pretty closely together on various projects. I've become casual friends with four of my coworkers and very close friends with one of them--we don't really get together outside of work but we text and phone each other regularly after work hours/weekends and we've helped each other through some tough emotional times over the past three years.
I'm about to be promoted to a newly created position within our dept--I'll have a senior-level position directly below our boss. I don't think that anyone will question my receiving this promotion as I have significantly more tenure/experience within our parent company, have several publicized successes under my belt, and am widely viewed as the "go-to" person within our group.
I know my personal relationships within my group--especially with my very close friend--will need to change. Everyone will still report directly to our boss, and their performance evals will be conducted by her, but I will now be in a position of some authority and will have access to sensitive and confidential info.
If you've ever been in a similar position, how did you deal with switching from the role of peer/friend to a role of authority? What (if any) mistakes did you make and how would you have done things differently? Or, if someone you've worked with has been promoted, what did they do to make sure the situation worked? What do you wish they had done differently? Any advice/anecdotes will be appreciated!