How can an adult shut-in with no work experience better themselves?
July 26, 2010 12:48 PM Subscribe
23-year-old shut-in with no work experience: how can I move to a place with jobs and gain employment?
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (14 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a 23-year-old shut-in who has a very small amount of work experience. In fact, my work experience is so little that I simply can't count it as being "true" experience; it's days' worth of experience. I've never even held a full-time job before.
My Asperger's Syndrome is what lead me to become the way I am. Anxiety is a co-morbid bi-product of it which has caused me to go outside very little - about once every few months. I don't go out because I'm frightened of the scorn I'd have to face as most people in my area have no understanding of what Asperger's is. People here despise me for not having a job and bully me for it without considering the fact that I have a disability. Everyone in this town knows who I am and the way I live my life. I live in a very conservative hamlet where people aren't in tune with the rest of the world. I can't go out without feeling a great deal of pain. The condescending and harsh way people speak to me makes me sick because I know that I'm not a bad person.
I recently met someone online who I care about a lot which has given me the initiative to change my lifestyle. I want to get a job and become a respectable person of society so that I can form relationships with people and obviously so that I can earn money which will make my life more pleasurable. At this point in my life I feel that I need to change. There's a problem though - I live in a small rural area where the only work available is farm work. A combination of me growing up in a large city/town my entire life has prevented me from being a competent farm-hand. Most of the farmers around here hire teenagers/young adults from other farms to help them as they know how to do the work more effectively than people who come from cities/towns. Even if I was good at farm-work, I still wouldn't want to do this as a job for my entire life as the earnings wouldn't be adequate enough to live a good life.
So here is my plan: I want to somehow save up enough money to be able to move to nearby city where doors will open for me - a place where I'll be able to go outside with ease. In order to earn money to allow me to move I'll have to do something to earn an income, and given that I'm a shut-in, online work would likely be my only feasible option. Do any of you have online work recommendations? The problem is that I honestly don't know how to go about online work. If it would allow me to earn at least $1500 a month, it would allow me to move to a city and start my life. After moving, I'm not sure what type of job I'd look for. I don't want to work at a blue-collar job for the rest of my life and college is out of the question because my grades in high-school were beyond terrible which was primarily due to the severe anxiety, but I'll be willing to try mostly everything out. Any job recommendations for a computers/electronics savvy introvert with poor social skills? I'm skilled in various areas, but computers/electronics are my forté. But I honestly don't know who would hire me which causes me distress. However, I need to stay hopeful.
Now you must be thinking "Why not just ask family to give you money to move?". The problem is that my family likely wouldn't give me money to move to an apartment as they probably can't see me being able to gain employment quickly enough. I wouldn't want them to pay rent for me when I wouldn't be able to find a job - I'd feel as if I let them down. I'd like to be financially grounded on my own before moving, and I hope this will be possible to achieve. If not, I feel I'll be stuck rotting away with my mother forever.
Due to the way I've been living my life for the past few years, I'll likely forever be viewed as being an eccentric, but I don't care. I just want to change and quit caring so much about what people think of me and move on. I just hope to god that it will be possible to change myself. I've spoken to others who live similar lifestyles as myself, but hardly any of them have improved their lives.
Anyway, thanks for taking the time to read this semi-long post. I await your responses.