How to deal with leukemia in the family.
March 2, 2005 9:36 AM Subscribe
My uncle is battling leukemia. What to do?
posted by lorrer to human relations (6 answers total)
He’s about 60 and has gone through two sessions of chemo. He went into the hospital really bad and seems better now, but says his chances are still very bad. He’s going into chemo again, and then will get a mini-transplant from a 23-year old male.
I’ve been writing him letters each week and trying to see him as frequently as possible (I’m in NYC, a busy law student, he’s in Syracuse, and very busy winding down his affairs). He’s as close to a father figure as I’ve ever had, and has given me much advice and good times over the years.
I’m wondering about the emotional side. My uncle and I are both trying to put his possible death out of our minds and just have fun together. However, a friend of mine suggested that “sometimes it's okay (and some think better) to mourn the person before they're gone so that you can work through these issues together and come out the other side at peace with life and death with no regrets.”
How would you deal with this? Have you? Have you seen this from the post-death side? How about if you’re a cancer patient yourself, what do you think? I don’t want to have regrets, but if all I do is mourn my uncle before he even passes, I know I’ll regret it. Any advice would be great, thanks!