Along the lines of this
question, I'm wondering how the difficulty, expense, satisfaction, fun, mess, stress, effect on the parents' relationship, space needed, etc. compare.
In short, we both want to have another child
, in the long run, but for various reasons - some changeable, some not - the idea of going through anything remotely like the first year of our daughter's life again makes me ill, as much as I adore her.
At the tougher moments, I often find myself thinking, Jesus, imagine if we had two
Everyone says the second one is less stressful: you know what to expect, you're not as uptight. But, of course, you also have another kid to take care of at the same time.
What drops or doubles? What stays the same? Assume children born roughly 3 years apart.