Should I make contact and apologize after all this time?
June 6, 2010 12:37 PM Subscribe
Ruined things with a couple people in high school. Older and wiser now. I feel I need to make contact and apologize, but is that a bad idea?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (42 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
Fifteen years ago, in high school, I wrecked a couple of great friendships with D and N. Short version: D, N, and I were friends at the time. I almost-sorta began going out with D eventually, immaturely and rather immediately ruined that, then in a fit of also-too-immature-to-handle-that, managed to trash the friendship with N. I'm sure I remember what happened worse than how it actually happened, but suffice it to say I said a lot of awful things and handled it all like a petulant asshole.
I feel bad to this day about the whole mess, which was entirely my fault. I want to apologize to both of them. On a whim, I did a search on The Facebook(tm) and found them. Yay! I can get in touch and apologize!
. . . But is that a good idea? I'm not so concerned with things going badly for me, but I don't want to dredge up something that they've more than likely forgotten about and selfishly force bad memories on them. That doesn't seem cool.
Hive, you're good with these things. Should I do this?
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