Birth control woes!
May 15, 2010 11:07 AM Subscribe
Birth control woes! My girlfriend suffers from migraines with auras, has rather heavy periods that sometimes leave her anaemic and require opiate painkillers, which means she is basically screwed for all the birth control options I can find. Ladies in this situation, have any tips?
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Condoms work fine for us, but their efficacy makes me a little nervous. I've made sure I know exactly what I'm doing, but mistakes still happen. The big issue is we pretty much can't have kids until a few years from now if that's what we decide, assuming we're still together (all metrics point to a solid yes =D).
Anyway, she tried the Nuva Ring, but pulled it out after two weeks of horrible side effects. It exacerbated other conditions, especially gastroinestinal stuff, it was bad news. It was also an NP who gave her the Nuva Ring, but when her gyn caught wind of this, told her NOT to use hormonal birth control again since she could have a stroke. IAMNAD, but her gyn is extremely old (late 70s) and might have out dated information. Or not, just checking all sides.
That leaves IUDs. A copper one will make her periods worse, which is a no no considering how bad they are now, and I have no clue about the Merina IUD. I know the hormones are supposedly localized, not sure what that means for migraines and stroke risk.
Though, even then, that is probably out. I mentioned IUDs to her before, and she said she didn't want one because she wasn't comfortable with something she couldn't remove herself. I'm certainly not questioning this, it is her call and while it seems a little extreme to me (considering you can have it out pretty quick with an NP or gyn's help), I also don't have a uteris that would have foreign objects shoved into it, so.
I admit that I somewhat selfishly was/am hoping for a solution that allowed me to stop using condoms, but that no longer seems to be an option. I'm now considering condoms + some other mechanical birth control method, no clue about those though. All sorts of crazy membranes and caps and stuff, I need a cheat sheet =D.
I am also considering just getting a vasectomy and having some sperm frozen (not too expensive for 3 samples, will probably double up at least). I was also considering getting one before I met her, so this isn't a result of being sexually active.
Note, I am leaning towards not wanting kids, but I options are nice.
So, men and women who are in a similar situation, what do YOU do? Also, if the Merina is viable, some thoughts from ladies using it would be nice. I'm not going to nag her or anything, I just want her to have all the information and some anecdotes (positive or negative) to go on. Probably won't make her any more comfortable with it, but just in case, I'll deliver the information to her with the disclaimer that I'm not trying to 'get' her to use it - just making sure she's sure, but let's just say I've mostly written the Merina off.