Leave someone you love if they're not right for you?
April 19, 2010 10:53 PM Subscribe
How do I know if I should leave her, if I love her?
posted by Atlantic to human relations (34 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I love her so much it hurts sometimes. She is not in love with me. I told her I loved her and she said she wasn't feeling that way yet. It's been almost nine months. Sometimes I feel like I'm in the movie "He's just not that into you" except the other way around.
How do I find the courage to make the right decision for myself? If I stay and she does love me someday, will the way she treats me change?
Is her complacency likely because of her not being in love? I guess I'm struggling with trying to understand if waiting it out to see if she falls in love will eventually change the way she treats me. She doesn’t treat me poorly, just doesn’t do very much, like I’m not a priority.
My mother said to wait it out until a year rolls around and then talk to her and ask her if she sees a future with me.
We are in our twenties. Please help :( I hate the unknown...