How do you draw the line about which racists to call out versus which ones to let slide?
April 14, 2010 10:52 AM Subscribe
When people my age say something against gays or against blacks I try to call them out. When my 81 grandpa says something I just let it slide figuring he was raised that way. What rules do you personally use to reconcile this kind of conflict?
posted by golakers to Human Relations (18 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
Age isn't the only factor, and I also consider whether it's personal for the racist person or just a bad habit, and whether the person is just trying to get a rise or really means it, and whether the person spends more time with people they might hurt or with people who might just encourage their racism and undo my trying to make them think about what they said.
I have felt I got the balance wrong in both directions. What factors do you consider? Also, is it disrespectful to my grandpa that I let him slide, almost like I'm saying he's too old for his opinion to matter and he's just going to die soon anyway so I'll let him have a terrible attitude?