How do you tell someone you're dating their lifestyle is hurting them?
April 11, 2010 4:20 PM Subscribe
[relationship filter] How do I tell the person I'm seeing they drink and sleep too much without sounding demanding or preachy?
posted by anonymous to human relations (16 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
[relationship filter] I feel like the girl I'm seeing drinks too much.
We met while I was under a lot of stress at work, and was drinking a lot more then, too. But the work dust for me has settled and not for her.
Very often she'll have a lot to drink at gatherings and then get quieter as the room thins out, then won't talk to me or walks away from me when she's alone. I tried to talk to her once while leaving an event and it resulted in shouting on the street. She associates drinks, friends, music with good times, but by the end of the night she's short with me. By the next morning it's just the headache and memories of good times.
We're only dating, not bf and gf, she suffers from depression and is almost three years older than I. She has more relationship experience than me. A lot more. I care about her, but I think the drinking and sleeping 12-13 hours a day could be detrimental to her health.
What do I do?