How can I become better at opening up to people, especially my therapist?
April 9, 2010 4:34 AM Subscribe
Therapy is torture. If I quit, I'll feel like I've failed. If I keep going, it will just be more torture. How can I become better at opening up to people, especially my therapist? Should I be changing therapists at this point?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (18 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
I've been in therapy with the same therapist for over a year now, and I still struggle immensely with finding ways to connect and talk with her. She'll ask me what I want to talk about, and I'll say that I don't know or care. When she asks me questions about my feelings about certain subjects, I'll repeatedly repeat that I don't know.
The thing is, I get so uncomfortable with therapy and with her questions (that seem to have the expectation of answers) that I really do feel like I'm blanking out and don't know the answers. Outside of therapy, I am keenly aware of my internal monologue; but once I step into that room, I just hole up somewhere and lose my ability to form words.
I've gotten a lot from therapy, but I feel like now that I'm "stabilized," I don't know how to talk to my therapist anymore. She has made sarcastic/joking comments to me about my avoidance but that doesn't help. I feel like all we do is talk around things instead of getting to the heart of them.
I have a hard time bringing up difficult or vulnerable subject matter with people in my every day life, too. I often talk around stuff with them, as well. I guess I just expected that a therapist would help me get past that.
So, my questions are still the same: How can I become better at opening up to people, especially my therapist? Should I be changing therapists at this point?
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