How to network with pride
March 19, 2010 2:33 PM Subscribe
I'm currently job searching and aside from getting in touch with close contacts and recent colleagues I'm having trouble with the whole idea of contacting people that I haven't spoken to in years when it's obvious my ulterior motive is networking. What's the best thing to say when approaching?
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I know that job searching is in many ways a numbers game and the more contacts you have the better chance you have of landing something. So I'm trying to step up my efforts here despite being a relatively introverted person. So what is the best approach to someone you haven't spoken to in years? If I drop a line saying "It's been a long time, how's it going?, it feels insincere and perhaps obvious that I'm just networking. On the other hand, contacting someone you haven't spoken to in years just to let them know you're job searching feels a bit slimy.
Someone I know said the best approach is to simply get in touch and say flat out that you're networking but to not mention that you're looking. Good idea? And how do you best maintain (as in, contact again in a few months to let them know you're still looking) those connections that you may not know very well? Again, "checking in" every few weeks or months just seems really off putting.
In the end, it all feels sort of pride swallowing but right now, the lack of a job is a bigger pride killer so I need to network. I'd just like to do it in the classiest way possible. Tips appreciated!