How do you choose a partner?
March 7, 2010 2:12 PM Subscribe
I don't understand how to choose a partner.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (24 answers total) 52 users marked this as a favorite
I know versions of this question have been asked here a lot, but they seem to usually focus on one specific scenerio. I'm confused about this issue overall - not specific to one person.
I've had several serious, several-year-long relationships in my life. Each time there were some clear pluses and minuses about the relationship from the get-go, but each time I really thought that person was The One. Obviously, none of those people were The One, and all the relationships ended for one reason or another.
I'm dating again and I'm really trying to do it differently this time around. Yes I am in therapy. Yes I ask my friends for feedback on my dates. And yes, I'm lucky enough to have people interested in me often enough that I feel I can be a bit cautious in this decision instead of throwing myself at whoever is there.
But how the heck does anyone ever decide to choose someone?
I know that attraction is not enough, liking someone is not enough, respecting someone is not enough. What is enough? How did you decide to stay with your person?